I don’t know whether any of you have noticed how our minds chatter non-stop. If you have a few minutes to stand by and ponder, you can hear your mind’s commentary. While we are seriously occupied with our regular pursuits, the background music is continuously on.
As you walk into your office, you notice that the floor is muddy, what everyone is wearing – whether it is good or bad, beautiful or ugly, that person is tall, this person is short, maybe she should not have worn that particular colour, that dress looks just perfect – so on and so forth.
This kind of chatter is not so bad as even as it is of no use to anyone it is of no trouble either.
The problem begins when the mind begins to take sides and argue over things that we have no control over.
There are times when we get angry with a family member, a colleague or very disturbingly and more often, our bosses. The whole day is a wasted exercise when we keep arguing and counter-arguing the matter, trying to find a different end as we re-hash conversations that are already over.
The mind chatters all the louder when frustration is the cause, we don’t have a choice and have to eat humble pie.
Right, now I have outlined the problem for you – I am sure you are all able to relate to this – let me try to explain how to solve it. For what is a problem that has no solution?
Chatter the mind does and it is not very easy to stop it.
Yeah I heard you muttering: “Arre yaar, and here we thought you are giving us a solution.” :)
I am getting there.
The first and foremost thing to do to get out of a problem is to be AWARE that there is one. You have to be aware that your mind has taken hold of one particular point and is worrying it the same way as a dog would a bone.
Stop doing anything and listen to the chatter. Check out how it is eating into your energies, spoiling your mood and consequently your whole day. Try to figure out whether it is achieving anything constructive at all.
Now that you have completed this, the simplest thing (or may be the most difficult) is to forgive the person who is causing this irritation and mentally bless them.
No, please don’t take a stick to me. I do realise that this seems quite strange to the way we have always been living – an eye for an eye and all that.
But when has that ever solved problems? More likely, troubles always escalated. Try this method of forgiveness and then go on to bless that person.
In the beginning, this task may seem tough. But as you continue to do this, you will find that your mind is silenced more and more and you can focus better on your regular lives.
Also, the bad feelings that accumulate within you that go on to become headaches, acidity, cancers, tumours and more, will just disappear.
The motive is purely selfish – to lead a happier and healthier life. :D